Please do not drastically change already-answered questions. It makes it hard to understand the answers in their original context. I have restored the first version of the question. It looks like the feedback here helped you realize that what you're really looking for isn't direct messages but a mentoring system. Great! Please ask a new question about that, and we can mark this one as superseded by that one.

Meta discussion should help us all refine our ideas -- that's a good thing. But in applying that refinement, we need to try to avoid being disruptive. It's totally fine to close out one question and ask what you really meant instead, separately. I realize the line might seem fuzzy; small clarification should be edits not new questions, large ones should be new questions, judging might be hard. Feel free to ask for help. Meanwhile, this case is clearly large, hence my edit and this comment.